VIP Question from Katie: My heart is aching. Mostly because I feel alone, although I feel strong, too. I thought I had found mutual deep love and care in a deep friendship that has developed over the last five years with my friend Will. When I finally worked up the courage to tell him I was holding onto hope for us to become a relationship he said it will only be friendship….I have talked extensively to him on the phone for the last two and half years…and through email prior to that…In five years, I have met him in person…probably ten times. We always have a nice time, though it has never been romantic (I thought that was because we are both shy) besides holding hands and he brought me flowers, once. I think of trying to find someone new, but when I think of qualities I want, I realize I am still thinking of him. I told Will that I could not talk to him on the phone anymore (even though I want to) because I have to put my energies in finding a relationship that goes somewhere. Truth; I only want him…What can you sense or see for the future of this situation?
Medium Laura Lee: You already know your answer…your thoughts are inspired from spirit to move on. Also, your heart is the primary guidance tracking system that helps us navigate through life. IF it signals pain, you must move on and towards your hearts desire. You must trust and honor Will ~ he spoke his truth, ‘…it will only be friendship.’ For self integrity, dignity and respect, you need to trust your heart and follow through this time. I say ‘this time’, because I sense you’ve circled around this idea with Will before ~ and he doesn’t believe you’ll leave (This is confirmation from your grandparents who want you happy). Therefore, the relationship will always hover in this ‘friend’ dynamic. And as long as you have Will in your space, no one else can enter. Nothing will change until you change.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love …always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
True love isn’t easy, especially when we learn to practice patience, kindness, and without condition. This relationship wasn’t wasted time. Instead, it is helping you grow and learn to value true love; First within yourself. This relationship has helped you see the kind of qualities you need in a relationship, with one of the most basic needs; A good friend.
I recommend you visualize your guardian angel wrapping Will up in her wings so that they fly far off and away from your inner vision. While visualizing, bless Will his happiness, peace and love everyday. I suggest that you perform this exercise before resting at the end of day, before rising for your day, and anytime you feel anxiety at your loss. This will help you release the burden from your heart. Then thank the light for restoring your heart with peace, love and joy. If you’re alone, say in the shower, I suggest saying this prayer out loud.
Continue this practice until you are unattached emotionally….and then some. This will help open the playing field. Then see what/who shows up 🙂
When the time comes, after you’ve moved on, found inner peace, and detached from any kind of outcome with Will, it is possible for you to have a friendship with him again without your heart aching. Only it will be different, you won’t be pinning for him as your savior or ‘the one’….As you will have discovered that this power is within you. Life is too short to live it out in pain. You deserve peace, joy and love…go for it!
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